Emily Skye: 'I Spent 10 Days Crying Constantly After The Birth Of My Daughter'
After having my baby, Mia, in December, I never thought in a million years I would get the “baby blues.” Having a baby was something I’ve always wanted, and I was thrilled to have her.
Unfortunately, sometimes things happen that are outside of our control — your hormones go absolutely crazy after giving birth, and there’s very little you can do about it. I just had to ride out the hormonal and emotional changes the best I could. I spent at least 10 days feeling really sad and crying constantly.
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It took having my baby Mia for me to be truly grateful for my body and to be proud of myself and what I’m capable of. 💗 . @recdedmond took this pic the day we brought Mia home from hospital! Everything was a blur back then and I was in the middle of post baby blues – I felt abnormal and alone (even though I wasn’t). I knew I was so blessed but I couldn’t help feeling really down for no reason! I thought I was supposed to feel overwhelmed with happiness and I felt guilty for feeling this way. My hormones were haywire, I was severely sleep deprived and questioned whether I was cut out for this whole “being a mother thing”. – All I knew was I loved Mia more than anything. 💗 Luckily these negative feelings passed within a couple of weeks. 🙏🏼 My hormones levelled out and I’m sleeping pretty well now. I love being a mother to Mia and I know I’m a fantastic mother to her. ☺️ I had no reason to doubt myself – but I guess we all do from time to time. I’ve been blessed with the most INCREDIBLE baby girl! Everyday I fall more and more in love with her… and it’s a love I could have never imagined before. Having her has changed my life, my mind and my body pretty dramatically and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I’m truly grateful and proud of myself. 🙏🏼😃🙌🏼 Remember – you are more capable than you think you are. Don’t ever be afraid to reach out and ask for help. You are not alone. 😘💗 . . #neverdoubtyourself #begrateful #appreciate #yourenotalone
This wasn’t the first time I’d battled emotional issues: I struggled a lot with low self-esteem as a teen. I would constantly think I wasn’t pretty or skinny enough, and I was a victim of classroom bullying. I was called “stick creature” because I was tall, and kids would make frog noises when I walked past them because of my big eyes.
It wasn’t until age 24 that I hit a turning point. I had been working out excessively, doing hours of cardio, and eating hardly anything so that I’d stay very thin.
But then I discovered fitness magazines. I saw images of these women who were strong and healthy and fell in love with the idea of using weights to transform my body in order to look and feel powerful.
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*Pre-baby body* . When I get the clear from my Doc to start exercising again (using my new FIT Programs of course 😉) I’m definitely going to be using myself as my inspo. I know my body will never be the same as before but what’s better than using myself as motivation! If I can get some of the fitness and strength back that I had before then I’ll be very happy. It’s going to take time though and I’ll make sure I don’t push myself too much. 😊 If you want to feel great you’ll love my FIT Programs, they’ll get you fit, healthy and feeling more confident without eating tasteless food and boring workouts.😝 – I have a 1 week free trial in the link in my profile! 👆🏼 . I felt incredible back in this pic – I was so strong and had so much energy.. I know I’ve said goodbye to a lot of that being a mum now and I’m a lot stronger in other ways haha 😂 but I do believe being active and healthy will help me to be the best mum to Mia that I can possibly be and I’m looking forward to starting my new fitness journey to feeling great again. – That’s what my goal for 2018 is! 😃 . At the moment I spend my days in my maternity undies (like the pic I posted last week haha) & I’m attached to my baby 😝 She literally wants a feed every hour or less at night which means no sleep for mama! 🙈😩 I totally respect ALL mums by the way – you’re all superhero’s because being a mum is TOUGH WORK! 🙌🏼 . .
I followed the magazines’ step-by-step instructions in the gym, and started looking online for workout videos. I started to feel better almost instantly on the inside and the outside: I discovered self-compassion and how to nurture and love my body, and the endorphins reduced my stress and anxiety and boosted my self-esteem.
I was able to flip my mentality and start looking in the mirror every day and say “I am good enough!” Fitness was a big part of finding my happiness.
It wasn’t until I started doing some light workouts that I started to feel better after giving birth to Mia. It’s so amazing how good you can feel after moving your body and getting the blood flowing again. Finding time to work out with a baby has been challenging, but I manage my time wisely. I know if she’s napping, it’s my time to exercise. I also do light cardio or floor work while she’s sitting in her swing.
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I’m 23 days postpartum & I’m wearing @recdedmond’s training shorts because none of mine fit. Haha! 😂 I’m down roughly 14kg since I have birth (I’d gained about 21kg while preg). It just shows how much fluid I had! It’s great not to be swollen anymore too! 😃 My tummy isn’t completely down yet and it’s really squishy but it’s getting there. My abs seems to be almost completely back together which I’m so happy about! They were 3 finger widths apart after I gave birth! The core & pelvic floor work I do everyday is obviously working. 😃🙌🏼 . I managed to do some really light exercises at home today for my pelvic floor & core & some resistant band crab walks & monster walks! It was really light & easy but feels so good to do something slightly active! I’m looking forward to returning to the gym in 2.5 weeks! 😃 It’s going to take a lot of hard work to get some sort of strength and fitness back but if I commit myself and I’m consistent I believe I’ll get there. ☺️👊🏼 . .
Each day I try to eat feel-good nutritious foods (I love almonds, whole grains, lean protein like chicken or salmon, and I’m a sucker for fruit smoothies with some coconut water or Greek yogurt) and make sure to go outside and get some sunshine.
One of the most important things I’ve learned has been to put my phone down every once in a while. I think we’re all guilty of spending too much time on our phones instead of being in the moment, so I try to take walks without mine, and of course, I try to disconnect when I’m with Mia to be fully in the moment.
Other women need to know that they shouldn’t feel ashamed if they’re battling depression or the baby blues. Talk to someone—a loved one, a counsellor, a friend, or anyone you feel comfortable with. It’s so important we talk about depression more and end this cultural taboo of keeping it hush-hush.
This article originally appeared on Women’s Health US
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